Building A Good Rapport

A Communication That Will Be Remembered

Lena Milukh - 05 December 2008

  Is it important to make a good rapport with other people? I am sure you know the answer. When you make a good impression, people tend to remember you. It is sad fact, but not all people can say they are charismatic. There are individuals who are naturally charismatic. Others just need some corrections when building a good rapport. And it is easier than you might think.

  Everybody likes attention and feeling special. Just show the person that you care when you have conversation with them. Guess what? They will care about what you have to say in return. It just that simple.

  Have you ever heard an expression "Do to others what you want them to do for you?". Probably sounds too familiar to pay a great attention to it. But it just make sense, try and see for yourself. Ofcourse there are situations you have a lot in your mind and you are just too tired or have no time and bunch of other problems to listen to concerns of others. Showing some interest and asking open questions as well as giving active answers (not just "yes", "hmm", "ugh", "wow" etc) will surely help to leave a good impression about yourself. Isn't it what you want people to do when you are speaking?

  Some people go even further. They "do onto others as those would like them to". That means paying a great attention to person's interests and desires. In this case nothing important would be missed. Being curious about person will show your interest and who knows, you may obtain some information you struggled to find.

  Let person talk about what they like, they will appreciate that. Everybody likes to talk about something they enjoy. Try not to interrupt person when they talk. No one likes to be stopped half way of talking, just some are polite enough not show their feelings. Don't change subject just because you have no interest in theirs. If you listen and give relevant response, you become a good communicator in their eyes, although you might talk much less than them.

  What if a person is an introvert or shy? You can make them talking more by asking open ended questions, that can't be answered with just "yes" or "no". Tell them something about you, your interests or hobbies first to make them more relaxed and trust you more. Here is your chance to talk. Just don't overdo it. See when the person is ready to express themselves.

  And last, but not least, don't forget about influence of positive body language. Always make eye contact. Smile whenever is appropriate. Laugh at their jokes and make your own. Try not to cross your arms and legs.

  These techniques might worth you a little bit of extra effort. Don't underestimate these tips. If you have a good rapport, people will feel comfortable talking to you and be more open. You will leave a lasting impression and it will be a pleasant one. They will want to meet you again and again. You will be able to build stronger relationships. If you are charismatic, everyone enjoys your presence as feel happier.

  Have a nice communication

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